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Shared Sorrows

A Gypsy family remembers the Holocaust

Author: Toby Sonneman

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“A touching collection of Holocaust memories that builds a bridge between the Gypsy and Jewish experiences.”

-David M. Crowe,
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About the book

“This riveting, sometimes quite graphic, well-written book... is an essential purchase for college, public and research libraries” Martin Goldberg, AJL Newsletter

“tough, sad, truthful... an extraordinary untold story” Grace Paley

“A great piece of oral history and an excellent addition to the body of Holocaust literature” Jane Victor, Counterpoise

On the morning after Kristallnacht, Toby Sonneman’s father walked through broken glass to apply for the visa which saved him from the fate of so many during the Third Reich.

In examining her own family history, the author discovered the similarities between the fate of the Jews and the Gypsies, both peoples selected on racial grounds for extermination by the Nazis.

Sonneman travelled with an American Gypsy survivor to Munich where she stayed with the formidable Rosa Mettbach.

This beautifully written book introduces Rosa and other members of an extended family who survived the Holocaust, interweaving the story of a Gypsy family with that of a Jewish family, shedding light on their shared sufferings.

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    Contents


     Map, Family treevii
     Prologue – In Human Terms1
     Chronology of Two Families7
    1A bit of sweetness15
    2A bitter root20
    3The family album38
    4Before and after49
    5I can do nothing for you59
    6The sky was grey67
    7Stains on the table78
    8I no like the German people84
    9I never was a child90
    10Inconsistencies102
    11A matter of surviving114
    12Then I realized…121
    13I cannot talk132
    14Mano, the boy who was lost140
    15Spiritually broken148
    16A piece of bread156
    17In the rain one sees no tears169
    18Their ways and our ways177
    19Homeland182
    20Primitive people192
    21The question of complicity204
    22Run and run213
    23No trust nobody no more218
    24Nobody comes back from my people222
    25Thorns in the garden225
    26Friedhof/Judenfriedhof231
     Epilogue – A spool of thread247
     Acknowledgments257
     End notes260
     Bibliography274
     Index278

  • About the Author/s:

    Toby Sonneman

    Toby Sonneman taught Journalism and English at Whatcom Community College in Bellingham, Washington until 2012.

ISBN: 978-1-902806-10-5 Format: Ebook, 296pp Published: Oct 2002

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